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~~Gattsu347~~ · 09-05-2009, 12:29 AM

if you treat girls like a sister, they'll love you.

DENEpants · 09-05-2009, 05:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chrysostom

Does that imply you've slept with men you don't like? Because if so you could always try not doing that. Might help with the whole avoiding boring men thing, js.

unfortunately yes, but tonight was night 1 of this new view on life so i'm one step closer to non boring men. you'd be surprised how difficult "don't do it" is sometimes though.

Chrysostom · 09-05-2009, 07:11 AM

That's what I was thinking. You make no sense Ms. pants.

~~aria~~ · 09-05-2009, 08:43 AM

i put so many girls in the friend zone all the time im pretty chill like that

JohnXDoesn't · 09-05-2009, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by asdf

It just seems entirely possible to me for a guy to find a girl okay to be around but not attracted to her in any romantic sense without the guy being gay.

it happens eventually, i think. sexually, if nothing else. which we seem to go about complicating

unless he is already seeing someone kinda seriously. then its easier not to want to bone friends and what not

otherwise yeah....gay

Avalanche. · 09-05-2009, 09:15 PM

im getting so much more play in college than in highschool it really is astounding

DENEpants · 09-05-2009, 10:52 PM

well you have to think about it from the other side, in high school girls weren't as sexually active and most of them were probably virgins, so it's not like you all of a sudden got skills you never knew existed.

here comes the bird flu · 09-05-2009, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by DENEpants

well you have to think about it from the other side, in high school girls weren't as sexually active and most of them were probably virgins, so it's not like you all of a sudden got skills you never knew existed.

has more to do with everyone becoming more sexually active and having more freedoms than at home with their parents

JohnXDoesn't · 09-05-2009, 11:19 PM

also the fact that 75% of all GIRLS have sex by 15 or 16. just not with a bunch of dumb high school boys. maybe just a few dumb high school boys. and others are vv discreet

then they get to college all bets are off. its bone city and all the former high school boys are like...."WAT! what happened?"

well now you know. nothing changed you just got a little older

here comes the bird flu · 09-05-2009, 11:23 PM

75% seems high

DENEpants · 09-05-2009, 11:36 PM

for girls it's 45% and boys it's 48% but they break it down by grade not age, so it's 9-12th graders who have had sex.

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http://www.kff.org/youthhivstds/upload/U-S-Teen-Sexual-Activity-Fact-Sheet.pdf

LegionsofMarduk · 09-06-2009, 09:34 AM

Well the custody battle is on. D'boon you had asked if I thought about a mediator and I had, but not after this weekend. Especially last night and this morning.

First, when my ex dropped the kids off Friday she mentioned that my son will be starting Kindergarten this year. Which was the first I had heard about it. He's only 4 and in no way ready for kindergarten. I told her that but she said she talked to people at preschool and the elementary school. Which I think is most likely a lie. And even if it isn't, she did not include me in the decision. She's putting him in kindergarten because she doesn't want to pay for a babysitter or preschool during the day. So I'm going to be setting up a meeting with the school principal, his teacher, and the school counselor for next week and see about putting him in some sort of young 5 or Peep program instead of kindergarten. I'm also going to be informing the school that ANY decision or contact regarding the kids is to go through me first.

Yesterday I told my ex that I would drop the kids off "between 5 and 5:30." So we get to her place at 5:20. Ring the door bell, no answer. Pound on the door, no answer. Call her cell phone, no answer. Pound on the door some more, still no answer. Hung around outside her place for almost 15 minutes. Finally left and went to some friends house for dinner and to watch some football. At 6:00 she texts me asking where I'm at. I tell her I tried dropping them off, she wasn't there, so now we're busy and I can drop kids off later that night or tomorrow. She flips out (again) and starts texting me about how she was home but didn't hear the door and she has custody and blah blah blah. She even has her flavor of the week boyfriend call and leave me a voice mail. Finally she says she's calling the cops, she'll pick the kids up at 8 tomorrow morning but since I was "non-compliant" the report would go to the courts Tuesday morning. I'm not exactly sure how I was non-compliant with our agreement since there is nothing written down aout custody aside from "joint legal and physical custody with reasonable, non-specific parenting time."

This morning: She's 10 minutes late to start with. She pulls into my place at 8:10. I give her the kid's carseat and clothes from the other day along with a typed up new custody arrangement since there isn't one currently. She starts yelling at me, her boyfriend starts yelling, she tries to push past me into my apartment, her boyfriend starts calling me all kinds of stuff and saying he's gonna kick my ass. I shut the door on her and call the cops. That was an excercise in futility. I called 911 and told the operator what happened and she said that I would have to call protective services on Tuesday, but there was nothing I could do today. So then a little while later, my wife called the non-emergency number to ask for an officer to come out so we could make a formal complaint. Same answer. So I'm going to be complaining about how the situation was handled by the dispatchers as well since a couple weeks ago I had to file a police report for a broken window to turn into my apartment office and insurance company. A broken window will get an officer to my door in under 10 minutes but threats and harrassment won't get anyone sent at all?

So in short, yes I have thought about a mediator. No, I won't be using one. I'm going to talk to some of my family today and see if any of them are able/willing to give me a hand in securing the funds for the attorney I met with last week. Then I'm going to press for sole custody of my kids, and possibly look into harrassment or any other charges against my ex and her boyfriend.

<3<3<3 · 09-06-2009, 10:00 AM

yeah you should transfer some of your voice mails to tape and save all the texts, maybe you already have.

LegionsofMarduk · 09-06-2009, 11:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Purple Water

yeah you should transfer some of your voice mails to tape and save all the texts, maybe you already have.

Already saving the texts. And have the voice mails saved as well. They'll be stored on my phone for 60 days but I also put my phone on speaker and recorded them into mp3s on my computer.

On my way to meet with family to see about getting funds secured. Wish me luck.

Agr1m · 09-06-2009, 02:28 PM

I'd go so far as to intentionally provoke her into saying or doing something embarassing, just to record it.

If she's that unstable and the kids would really be better off with you (and i don't doubt they would be) then do what you have to do man.

And good luck.

adb · 09-06-2009, 04:45 PM

I had a two hour convo yesterday with girl I've talked to all summer

finally explained my feelings

she kept saying "I don't want to say something I'll regret"

so basically it'll be up in the air for awhile, I know she's afraid of commitment

ideally I'd just want to be friends with benefits, that's every guys dream

2muchket! · 09-06-2009, 05:37 PM

Hmm this mean seem stupid but here goes.

Basically I've been single for nearly 2 years and I've just ****ed about with my friends and only had one night stands. Anyways I got chatting with a girl again who I used to see on nights out and gigs a few months back. We've ended up sleeping together a few times since then after going out clubbing and the past few weeks everything has been going really well. She makes me laugh and we have a lot in common i.e. the type I'd get into a relationship with.

The kicker ? I move 50 miles away this saturday to start university. I really want to ask this girl out properly but I've never been a fan of long distance relationships. Ideally I'd like to just leave it till next summer and ask her out then but she could be seeing someone else by then and I'd feel a prat for not chancing it.

adb · 09-06-2009, 05:45 PM

yeah frankie that sucks

I know what you mean, I want to be with this girl so she doesn't find someone during the year. I have a feeling she will.

2muchket! · 09-06-2009, 05:45 PM

oh snap

nah she's fit

tbh brent atleast you manned up and told her how you feel. It's a step in the right direction atleast man.

And I thought you went to the same college as she did ?

adb · 09-06-2009, 05:50 PM

nah dawg, this girl is like, amazing brah

like you don't even know man

09-05-2009, 07:11 AM	#23
Chrysostom Palace player Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: In my own little world Posts: 7,036	That's what I was thinking. You make no sense Ms. pants. Last edited by Chrysostom; 09-05-2009 at 07:14 AM.

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09-05-2009, 12:29 AM	#21
~~Gattsu347~~ Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,276	if you treat girls like a sister, they'll love you.

09-05-2009, 08:43 AM	#24
~~aria~~ Banned Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: bring back white dog shit Posts: 8,528	i put so many girls in the friend zone all the time im pretty chill like that

09-05-2009, 09:15 PM	#26
Avalanche. College livin Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Where you live Posts: 931	im getting so much more play in college than in highschool it really is astounding

09-05-2009, 10:52 PM	#27
DENEpants I don't care Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: the city Posts: 2,356	well you have to think about it from the other side, in high school girls weren't as sexually active and most of them were probably virgins, so it's not like you all of a sudden got skills you never knew existed.

09-05-2009, 11:19 PM	#29
JohnXDoesn't Trolled off MX Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: i got told Posts: 19,671	also the fact that 75% of all GIRLS have sex by 15 or 16. just not with a bunch of dumb high school boys. maybe just a few dumb high school boys. and others are vv discreet then they get to college all bets are off. its bone city and all the former high school boys are like...."WAT! what happened?" well now you know. nothing changed you just got a little older

09-05-2009, 11:23 PM	#30
here comes the bird flu Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 13,021	75% seems high

09-06-2009, 09:34 AM	#32
LegionsofMarduk The Baphomet Horde Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Under the Sign of the Black Mark Posts: 6,934	Well the custody battle is on. D'boon you had asked if I thought about a mediator and I had, but not after this weekend. Especially last night and this morning. First, when my ex dropped the kids off Friday she mentioned that my son will be starting Kindergarten this year. Which was the first I had heard about it. He's only 4 and in no way ready for kindergarten. I told her that but she said she talked to people at preschool and the elementary school. Which I think is most likely a lie. And even if it isn't, she did not include me in the decision. She's putting him in kindergarten because she doesn't want to pay for a babysitter or preschool during the day. So I'm going to be setting up a meeting with the school principal, his teacher, and the school counselor for next week and see about putting him in some sort of young 5 or Peep program instead of kindergarten. I'm also going to be informing the school that ANY decision or contact regarding the kids is to go through me first. Yesterday I told my ex that I would drop the kids off "between 5 and 5:30." So we get to her place at 5:20. Ring the door bell, no answer. Pound on the door, no answer. Call her cell phone, no answer. Pound on the door some more, still no answer. Hung around outside her place for almost 15 minutes. Finally left and went to some friends house for dinner and to watch some football. At 6:00 she texts me asking where I'm at. I tell her I tried dropping them off, she wasn't there, so now we're busy and I can drop kids off later that night or tomorrow. She flips out (again) and starts texting me about how she was home but didn't hear the door and she has custody and blah blah blah. She even has her flavor of the week boyfriend call and leave me a voice mail. Finally she says she's calling the cops, she'll pick the kids up at 8 tomorrow morning but since I was "non-compliant" the report would go to the courts Tuesday morning. I'm not exactly sure how I was non-compliant with our agreement since there is nothing written down aout custody aside from "joint legal and physical custody with reasonable, non-specific parenting time." This morning: She's 10 minutes late to start with. She pulls into my place at 8:10. I give her the kid's carseat and clothes from the other day along with a typed up new custody arrangement since there isn't one currently. She starts yelling at me, her boyfriend starts yelling, she tries to push past me into my apartment, her boyfriend starts calling me all kinds of stuff and saying he's gonna kick my ass. I shut the door on her and call the cops. That was an excercise in futility. I called 911 and told the operator what happened and she said that I would have to call protective services on Tuesday, but there was nothing I could do today. So then a little while later, my wife called the non-emergency number to ask for an officer to come out so we could make a formal complaint. Same answer. So I'm going to be complaining about how the situation was handled by the dispatchers as well since a couple weeks ago I had to file a police report for a broken window to turn into my apartment office and insurance company. A broken window will get an officer to my door in under 10 minutes but threats and harrassment won't get anyone sent at all? So in short, yes I have thought about a mediator. No, I won't be using one. I'm going to talk to some of my family today and see if any of them are able/willing to give me a hand in securing the funds for the attorney I met with last week. Then I'm going to press for sole custody of my kids, and possibly look into harrassment or any other charges against my ex and her boyfriend.

09-06-2009, 10:00 AM	#33
<3<3<3 ﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿ Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: clouds Posts: 5,941	yeah you should transfer some of your voice mails to tape and save all the texts, maybe you already have.

09-06-2009, 02:28 PM	#35
Agr1m Doublewood Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Modern Drunkard Posts: 1,866	I'd go so far as to intentionally provoke her into saying or doing something embarassing, just to record it. If she's that unstable and the kids would really be better off with you (and i don't doubt they would be) then do what you have to do man. And good luck.

09-06-2009, 04:45 PM	#36
adb exceptionally aggressive Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: super mild Posts: 32,374	I had a two hour convo yesterday with girl I've talked to all summer finally explained my feelings she kept saying "I don't want to say something I'll regret" so basically it'll be up in the air for awhile, I know she's afraid of commitment ideally I'd just want to be friends with benefits, that's every guys dream

09-06-2009, 05:37 PM	#37
2muchket! mx chubstep enthusiast Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 23,157	Hmm this mean seem stupid but here goes. Basically I've been single for nearly 2 years and I've just ****ed about with my friends and only had one night stands. Anyways I got chatting with a girl again who I used to see on nights out and gigs a few months back. We've ended up sleeping together a few times since then after going out clubbing and the past few weeks everything has been going really well. She makes me laugh and we have a lot in common i.e. the type I'd get into a relationship with. The kicker ? I move 50 miles away this saturday to start university. I really want to ask this girl out properly but I've never been a fan of long distance relationships. Ideally I'd like to just leave it till next summer and ask her out then but she could be seeing someone else by then and I'd feel a prat for not chancing it.

09-06-2009, 05:45 PM	#38
adb exceptionally aggressive Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: super mild Posts: 32,374	yeah frankie that sucks I know what you mean, I want to be with this girl so she doesn't find someone during the year. I have a feeling she will.

09-06-2009, 05:50 PM	#40
adb exceptionally aggressive Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: super mild Posts: 32,374	nah dawg, this girl is like, amazing brah like you don't even know man